Why bother visiting a 'Sexologist in Chennai'?

This is Dr. Shah Dupesh, I am a practicing andrologist in chennai. I also specialize in clinical sexology and I am full time clinical sexologist in chennai.

Before I begin explaining to you about what happens when you visit a sexologist, let me brief you about the nature of sexology problems.

Keep reading!

The TRUTH is

Sexual health disorders are on the rise, and the medical authorities are seemingly not paying heed to the tremendous epidemic of sex related problems in men and women.

On an average, sexual dysfunction affects over 45% of all men and around 37% of all women world-over.

However…

the  story does not end there!. The frequency of sexual health issues affecting men  and women drastically increases with increasing

AGE!

Numerous published studies done world over have clearly stated that, in today’s world men on average will face sexual dysfunction at least once in their lifetime.

The SAD TRUTH is though..

Women are also not spared!, female sexual problems are also rising. just as badly as male sexual problems.

Female sexual health issues and quite frequently male sexual health issues result in Infertility.

Having a sexology problem is one thing, but when infertility does occur as a consequence of a sexual problem, frequently things get messy for the couple.

This is exactly when visiting a Sexologist in chennai can help you in a long way towards sorting out such problems.

Now, I will try to answer a few common questions, about visiting a sexual health clinic

So firstly,

What is Sexology?

Sexology is the scientific study of human sexual life and sexual relationships in many aspects.

Many different fields are encompassed with sexology like psychology, biology, medicine, epidemiology and anthropology.

The study of sexual life requires understanding of many fields related to human beings, as sex is a complicated topic that affects many aspects of human life and nearly all aspects of intimate relationships.

Just as neurologists study neurology, chemists study chemistry; Sexologists study human sexual behaviors, interests, feelings, functions, and interactions.

Many different fields are encompassed with sexology like psychology, human behavioral science, culture and religion

The study of sexual life requires understanding of many fields related to human beings, as sex is a complicated topic that affects many aspects of human life and nearly all aspects of intimate relationships.

To put things in 1 sentence

“Sexology is the Science of Sex”

The History of Clinical Sexology

The scientific study of human sexual life is ancient and humans have always been interested in exploring more about sexuality.

Sexology used to be included within other fields like psychology and medicine.

In 1886, sexology first came out for existence as a separate science thanks to Richard Von Krafft-Ebing, a German psychiatrist who publish a book “Psychopathia Sexualis” which was a great piece of work describing all forms of abnormal sexual behaviors he ran across through his entire career.

Many works of sexology were published later establishing sexology as a separate and unique science.

Now there are many scientific journals solely-dedicated to sexual research

How can a Sexologist help you? 

Finding a properly trained and good Sexologist doctor in Chennai, a rather conservative city is pretty tough!.

A sexologist is a specially-trained sex therapist who is most qualified to help clients deal with their sexual problems.

A sexologist can be a psychologist, psychiatrist or an anthropologist specialized in studying human sexual behaviors and disorders.

Moreover, a sexologist may practice as a researcher, sexual educator, sex counselor or a clinician.

Sexologists often also specialize in managing a range of sexually transmitted diseases like Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, HIV treatment, Hepatitis B, Genital herpes and Hepatitis C. A sexologist also counsels patients on safe sex practices and healthy preventive strategies like using PEP for HIV prevention 

Sexologists work with their patients on large range of problems like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, small penis syndrome, decreased sex interest and also some problems like pain during intercourse.

Furthermore, sexologists try to solve these problems by increasing their clients

1. Awareness of the particular sexual health issue

2. Identifying the underlying causes, fixing any organic disorders that might exist.

3. Making partners more comfortable and willing to talk to each other about sex, and equipping both parts of the relationship with the necessary skills needed to solve their problem

How a therapy session with a Sexologist works?

As any therapy session, your sexologist will initiate the session by greeting you and obtaining your name (or names if you come as a couple), he will then introduce himself, his role and nature of the session. First step towards a successful solution for any problem is recognizing the presence of it.

Your therapist will dig deeper so he can determine :-

What the problem is exactly?

Why you have such a problem (the causes)?

How serious is your problem (to what extent it affects your sex life)?

Whether it is due to a past experience, a wrong belief, an organic disorder, lack of necessary sexual education and skills or a  psychological problem?

Whether it can be solved by a session alone or it requires help from another healthcare professional?

A corner stone for any successful therapy is talking.

The sexologist will encourage you to talk to him about your feelings, ideas and thoughts.

By talking to your therapist, he does not only gather more helpful information about what might be the problem, but you also learn to be more comfortable to talk to your partner about that problem, talking to your therapist will help you open up and share your hidden feelings and expectations with your partner.

You might think it will be much harder to open up to someone you never knew before (your therapist) than someone you share every part of your life with (your lover), but this is not actually the case.

Humans tend to hide secrets from the ones they love the most, plus it is nothing to be compared to conversing with a stranger, psychosexual therapy offers you the opportunity to have

—> a productive conversation with a well-trained therapist whose feelings you aren’t afraid to hurt.

—>who encourages you to express yourself, doesn’t interrupt you, listens attentively to what you’re saying, facilitates your response by asking the right questions

—>Knows how to deal sensitively with embarrassing topics and has great skills to define what goes on wrong between you and your partner and how to solve it.

Even just voicing your thoughts and feelings that you never actually got a chance to express can be very healing.

One of the main approaches in clinical sexology is called “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)” which is defined as a goal-oriented short-term psychotherapy that aims at changing patterns of problematic thinking or behavior responsible for creating difficulties for the patient.

It’s based upon the proved great impact a belief can have on someone’s behavior and function.

An example is a sex problem arising from a false belief that considers extreme hardcore sex as sign of masculinity and manhood,

CBT will be very effective in management of such case.

Between the sessions, your sexologist may prescribe some exercises or assignments to do.

For example, he may suggest you to go out on a romantic date and come home early with intention of simply touching and exploring each other.

If your sexologist thinks your case requires medical intervention like drug prescription or medical investigation, he will prescribe you the necessary medications to solve your problem in the safest way possible

Here are some interesting statistics on sex & sex related problems

1. Premature ejaculation is the most common cause of sexual dysfunction in men. This is followed by erectile dysfunction.

2. About 10-15% of young and middle age male groups experience premature ejaculation at some point every year.

3. An average women needs 10 to 20 minutes of stimulation> to reach orgasm.

4. Only in 29% of sexual intercourse, women actually reach orgasm.

5. In about 80% of all cases, women are faking their orgasms

6. 1 of 40 women have been beaten by her partner  during intercourse

7. One in five women have been forced to enter a sexual intercourse session

8. One if six women have been stalked from a sexual view point

9. About 5% of middle-age group and 20% of old-age group men experience erectile dysfunction.

10. Women are more cautious than men in entering a new relationship, also they’re more likely to end the divorce by 64% chance.

11. About 4% of of the couples population suffer from sexless marriages

12. Women think about sex as frequently as men do

13. A large proportion of men suffer from worries about their penis size a condition called small penis syndrome

14. Sexually transmitted diseases are very common. In an STD clinic, commonly detected STI include Genital herpes, also notorious infections like Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Syphilis & lastly Hepatitis B.

15. A large proportion of patients also visit sexologists out of fear of contracting STD’s like HIV. Thus, they seek out preventive therapy with pep treatment

What are main causes of sex problems? 

Here are the most common reasons why people visit sexologists :-

Loss of interest in intercourse “Low Libido”: Low libido is abnormal decreased or loss of sexual desire. Everyday life issues can find their way between you and your partner, sometimes one of you feel stressed, sometimes you’re not in the mood and sometimes you’re just not into it anymore. A sex therapist can explain to you how this is happening and help you get through it.

Premature ejaculation: Premature ejaculation is uncontrolled rapid-onset ejaculation just before or shortly after penetration.

Anorgasmia: Anorgasmia  is difficulty or inability of reaching orgasm or climax after normal sexual stimulation.

Pain during intercourse Also most cases of pain during intercourse indicates an organic disease, it’s advisable to seek sex therapy as an adjuvant treatment for the pain.

Erectile dysfunction Erectile dysfunction is the failure of  a man to get and maintain an erection that’s strong enough for sexual intercourse. About 40% of all men of the middle age group, and 70% of the old age group are affected with ED.

Pornography and sex addiction : About 6% of US population are addicted to sex, and about 40 million Americans are regular visitors to porn sites. Our country is no better exception though

Having an affair: Cheating is one of the most common reasons why a patient seeks sex therapy.

References

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/what-does-sex-therapist-do

http://societyaustraliansexologists.org.au/what-is-sexology/

https://psychcentral.com/lib/in-depth-cognitive-behavioral-therapy/

http://theconversation.com/happy-endings-the-ins-and-outs-of-clinical-sexology-36820

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